Should You Postpone Your Wedding? | Le Festin Events
Our lives are in a new reality. I believe however, that as much as these days have shocked us and make us realize that nothing in life truly is certain, it is also a time to self-reflect and cherish the people and what we have in life, from families to neighbors. It is a time to remember that as people of the world, we are all connected. We as communities and as a nation are all in this together.
Let's keep calm and try to carry on.
If you are thinking about possibly changing your wedding date, here are my thoughts on assessing and following through.
1. Take into great consideration any current C.D.C. Guidelines.
2. Take into great consideration any current state and local government guidelines.
3. Follow all necessary government mandates or orders.
4. The seasoned wedding planner in me always thinks of what is to come. As much as many are thinking about the “now” and up to May, I believe it is also important to keep in mind what goes beyond the next few months. If you are getting married after May and have not hired us for a Full Plan Package, it may be a good idea to think about ideal back-up dates, review the information below and touch base with your vendors if you have any questions or concerns. I assure you most vendors are incredibly busy at this time moving dates from their March and April postponements, so you may need to be a bit patient with receiving word back. As of today, I do not believe it is necessary just yet for a date change, but I always think it is best to be prepared. Ultimately a date change is decision that is yours to make.
5. Review all your vendor contracts, particularly clauses pertaining to date change and cancellations.
6. Assess the top vendors that you cannot or do not want to go without and make them your priority when reviewing date changes.
7. Discuss with those most affected within your wedding regarding your possible plans (your significant other and possibly parents). It may also be good to hear input from someone close to you that you know to be the most unbiased and level-headed in times of crisis.
IF YOU DECIDE TO MOVE FORWARD WITH A DATE CHANGE:
1. Contact all vendors regarding your date change. If your vendor’s contract has no date change information, be sure to clarify. Many in the wedding industry are willing to work with their clients to ensure that there is a fair outcome for everyone, however, it is best not to expect that level of courtesy from all as some vendors will not make exceptions on any circumstance. The best approach here is to be open to dialogue and be completely honest. If you are able, you may want to think about offering a payment off your original contract to make the deal a bit sweeter and help your vendor. The loss of income may affect their business greatly and the idea here is to keep you happy with your new wedding date and them afloat. “You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.”
2. Let your guests know via phone, text or email and on your wedding website that you may change your wedding date - dependent on laws and possibilities. You may also send out cards if you want a bit more formality. Let them know you will follow-up once decisions have been made. Likely, your guests are already assessing whether they will come to your event, but it is best to keep them updated from the beginning to get this step off your list. They too are placed in a position where their local governments may be imposing mandates and are likely to understand the constant evolution of possibilities and limitations.
3. You may have to be open to a date that fall within a weekday or Sunday as vendors are very much trying to keep their businesses afloat and may have already been booked out. At this time with so many things up in the air, I highly suggest thinking about a weekday or Sunday wedding as you will have better results, particularly if you have vendors that can only make such days happen. Quite honestly, I believe you will find many people getting married on weekdays or Sundays in 2021 as they were just like you, in this exact situation. Most guests will understand the circumstances.
4. Don’t be surprised if a vendor requests additional fees for a date change, particularly if plans differ greatly from the original. The pandemic is most certainly not your fault, but if your vendor has already worked and fulfilled parts of their service, re-doing work is essentially new work in addition.
5. Make sure that any conversation or agreements with vendors are acknowledged in an email.
6. Once you’ve selected a new date and lined up your essential vendors, as well as the vendors you do not want to go without, let your guests know and change your wedding website information.
7. Take a very big, deep breath. Take some time off wedding planning and allow for self-care. These are very stressful times and planning a wedding makes it more challenging.